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6Dec/120

Do Tarot Cards Still Have a Place in our World?

In a world increasingly jaded by technology and progress, it’s easy to scoff at people who blindly entrust their lives to a deck of cards. We tell ourselves, we are rational, clear-headed people, so how can randomly shuffled cards spread on the table possibly answer all our life’s questions.

Tarot cards have had a crucial and inseparable influence in mysticism and the occult. They first arrived sometime in fifteenth century Italy, but it was not until late 17th or 18th century that tarot cards began to be used in divination. The tarot cards that we know today have gone through a long and evolution, from the pictures, symbolisms, procedures, purposes, and meanings. It is interesting to note that tarot cards were originally used in a game, with 21 trump cards, four queens, and a fool added to a normal deck, which totals to 78 cards in all. But it is unclear exactly how tarot branched out from a simple mind-diverting game into the fragile business of looking back into past lives, foretelling the future, and answering questions.

Tarot Archetypes

The highly-respected psychologist Carl Jung has always considered tarot as an alternative psychotherapy. For him, the rich imagery inherent in every tarot card represents archetypes of human personality and situations. Archetypes are basic models or prototypes of people that embody a defined set of characteristics. The Emperor card, for instance, can be thought of as representing the patriarch or the father figure.

Over the years, we piece together various archetypes according to our needs. These archetypes are embedded in our unconscious and thus they can affect our actions and thoughts without our knowing. Consequently, our choices of tarot cards when we pick them out from that “innocent” deck reveal our feelings, attitudes, and even fears towards such figures in our lives. For instance, we may not know it, but we have always shied from responsibilities and commitment in lives whenever there is a father figure looming in the background, etc.

Tarot cards offer an alternative language system through which we can access our Unconscious. Therefore, we do not just randomly pick tarot cards, or blindly entrust our lives to them. Every moment of our lives, we lay ourselves bare with the choices we make, even for something as papery as tarot cards.

The Missing Tarot in The Skeptic’s World

Tarot readings then should not be dismissed as just some pretend psychic business exploiting a person’s gullibility. The art of tarot cards is subtle, delicate, yet powerful. It is energised by centuries of symbolism and meaning created, expounded, and developed by people who dared to see beyond. For them, the Arcane that lies on the fringes of human experience holds the secrets we need to survive.

Before we question the legitimacy of tarot cards, we should first look into the person who wants to inquire about himself/herself. Will they see to believe, or believe to see?

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2Nov/120

What You Condemn Or Admire In Others Talks About You

The human psyche seems to have a pendant for projecting our shortcomings onto others, but also our good traits.

Without the other we would not be able to know the self: they are our mirrors. If you want to know whether your hair looks great or if your new coat suits you, you take a look in the mirror. You need that mirror to be able to look at your outer appearance.

The same counts for your inner world. If you want to have a look at yourself inside, look into the mirror, which is other people : the traits you hate in them and the ones you love in them. This tells more about you than you think! In fact, you hate and love those traits which you pushed away into your shadow zone, which you decided you do not want to see (the negative traits you condamned as bad or no good), or those which you decided you don?t have (the positive traits, which you call good and which you would like to have but you think you do not have them).

In order to see inside yourself, look at what disturbs you in others and what you admire in others. All these traits are energies you pushed away and which you need to recover. That is why this bothers or attracts you now in your life.

What we condemn or detest in others are our own qualities that we do not want to face, but that we should be working at. This is called the negative projection. What you do not like in others, or even hate, is a part of yourself.

When the indifference of another person disturbs you, it means that you should be more indifferent yourself and stop to invest yourself for 100% everywhere and with everyone! This does not mean you have to become as indifferent, cold and distant as the other person, but that you should reintegrate a part of this energy in your own behavior, and become a little less involved in what you do. Too much involvment can hurt you. You need to learn in this case to take more care of yourself instead of being so focused on the other one.

If you are balanced on this polarity of indifference (one extreme) and too much involvment (the other extreme), than the indifference of the other won't bother you anymore. This counts for every trait that bothers you in others! You should integrate the energy of this trait in your energy field. This means to become a little bit more like the other (in this exemple : indifferent) and become the opposite to yourself (more involved in your own well being).

When you start to integrate the behavior that disturbs you in others, you will notice that this behavior doesn?t disturb you anymore. You simply do not notice it anymore. You have integrated this energy, so now you become neutral towards this topic.

When the aggressive behavior of a partner or colleagues is getting to you, then you may have to learn to say no, defend your ground and clearly mark the borders. The fact that the aggression in the behavior of somebody else disturbs you, means that you have hidden that energy away in your shadow side. You can reclaim that energy and develop it in other ways that support your balance in life.

This counts for every behavior in others that disturbs you. This is the fastest way to grow and to keep up with others at the same time!

On a scale of polarities, what you hate is the polarity you did not develop inside you and you should. Life showes you this in the behavior of the significant other. In stead of hating him or his behavior, observe, ask yourself what you have to learn, learn it, integrate (you become a better person, a whole, complete person) and the screen of life will show you a more balanced person!

In the same way, the good traits you admire in others are your own qualities that you do not know you have. You think you are lacking these talents and admire them thus in others. These qualities are present within yourself but they are under construction and also need developing. They are, however, a mirror image of your highest abilities. This is the positive projection.

Think of a male person and a female person you admire, and who you know in real life. Make a list of the qualities and traits you admire in them. Then read this list again and say out loud in front of each quality : I am...

Lets say you admire the elegance and the organizational skills of your best friend. This means you too have the capacity to organize your life and things and you too are beautiful, otherwise you would even not be able to see it in others! You do have the germ of these qualities inside, otherwise you wouldn?t be able to notice them.

This list clearly represents who you are. This is the truth about you. These qualities are INSIDE of you. They are merely waiting to be discovered, expanded and expressed.

You can do the same with people you do not know personally, like movie stars, singers, historical figures, politicians, mythical figures, fairies. List their qualities and read for yourself : I am...

In the beginning you are maybe sceptical, you do not want to believe you possess yourself these qualities. But have a closer look and admit the possibility of having these qualities inside you in the form of seeds that need to be cultivated in order to blossom.

What you do not have inside yourself, you can not see in others!

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18Oct/120

Joy Can be Found in Every Moment

Many people set aside perhaps at most, several days of the year to celebrate.  Perhaps close family and friend’s birthdays, Christmas or someone’s wedding. It’s such a shame to confine celebration to just a few days a year.

Every day there is reason to celebrate. In every single experience you have, joy can be extracted.  In fact every moment of your living lives you can choose happiness, wonder and joy.

It doesn’t matter what you celebrate – the main point is that you celebrate.  Don’t worry and pay attention to other people’s tragic lives and what they have chosen.

Focus instead on your life and the joyful choices you make every day.  Before you wake up in the morning make it a point to find just one thing to celebrate. Simply being alive and breathing is reason enough to celebrate.

And your celebration doesn’t have to be elaborate or even cost any money.  You could buy yourself a bunch of $5 flowers from the newsagents or you could go and pick some wild daisies from your yard.  

You could go and have a luxurious bubble bath while listening to your favourite music or while reading an engrossing novel.  You could go out for a coffee with your best friend and enjoy a giant piece of cake.

There are so many things to celebrate and so many ways you can celebrate. Be creative.  The more you look for joyous moments the more joy you will experience every day.

And you will find not only one thing to celebrate but hundreds!

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21Sep/120

An Internet Celebrity is Born in Southern Africa

The good news is that I have started on my celebrity journey. I could have put ‘Swaziland’ in the topic, but I chose Southern Africa because its my target area of dominance. Being a celebrity doesn’t just come, but it is earned. Today I’m writing articles to this directory as I also improve my online profile in my blog ‘yeboyeafrica.com’. I have learnt with great pain the success that comes with commitment and one that ends up at international recognition and eventually makes one a celebrity, that its by choice and often celebrities are promoted by group work. For example, Beyonce Knowles started out, or at least got noticed, with Destiny’s Child and she picked music as the sole life blood of her success. Similarly,  Michael Jackson with his brothers, so are many other musicians.

 

 

The internet is a business forum that can be used for many purposes. Many have started up motivational businesses based on the success they have made online. I believe that as I learn the tricks and grow my online earnings through my tested combination, I will make internet marketing my model for success. 165 motivational articles are posted to date in my blog, and I know they are read all over the world to make my name known in all four corners of the world. I notice with interest the growing number of articles that are translated into other languages and surely know that this makes good mileage for both my blog and my name also.

 

Unfortunately, some celebrities have to push their own agenda on their own, without getting assistance from anyone. I’m am one of those, and shall make it happen in the near future.  Actions speak louder than words and my celebrity agenda shall confirm it. I’m no lay about looser to fail reaching the 2 percent that make it big in internet marketing. Allow me to take up the challenge and simply watching my moves. You are welcome to view my articles that will inspire you to adopt an ‘none-failure’ attitude that will take you trough to seeing your dreams manifest.

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20Jun/120

Gratitude – the Magic Bullet for Manifestation Mastery

I have no doubt that you've already heard about the POWER of GRATITUDE. In fact, if you've been using intentionality for any time at all, then you've already employed gratitude intentionally and know that the most vital and powerfully creative feelings are always going to be variations of love and appreciation.

"I am grateful. I appreciate. I give thanks for. I revel in delight about. Oh, isn't that lovely. I welcome. This is so gratifying. I feel complete about. I love."

Abraham, channeled through Esther and Jerry Hicks, suggests going on an 'Appreciation Rampage." From one of their workshops in 2000, here's a quote:

"It might take some diligence at first. I might say, 'That doesn't make me feel good, and that doesn't make me feel good,' but if I want to feel good, then I will stay on my search. And if I keep saying to the Manager, or to the Universe, 'I want to find something that makes me feel good; I want to find something that makes me feel good.' If I'm holding that intent, and I really, really mean it, the Universe will yield to me, sooner than later, something that makes me feel good - and I will feel the relief and the release of feeling better. And then I will say, 'Ah, that makes me feel good.' And as I focus upon that for as little as 17 seconds, now I'm off and running. Suddenly, the things that were in my vicinity that were not making me feel good, I do not have vibrational access to any more. Now, I'm on a rampage of things feeling good." - Abraham (www.Abraham-Hicks.com)

We inherently know what it means to be grateful. However, do we really apply this knowledge in our everyday experiences? Are we truly leveraging the power of gratitude to not just manifest our dreams but to manifest the kind of every day experience that we want?

- What about in your work relationships? Do you use gratitude with the co-worker that drives you crazy or the boss that piles on more while paying less and less?

- What about during the holidays? Do you use gratitude when the shopping lines are long or when your dear relative goes berserk in the middle of the feast?

- What about at home, with your friends, when looking at your bank account, or reviewing past memories (both positive/negative)?

Any thought that is NOT aligned with appreciation is an opportunity to apply the power of your mind toward creative transformation.

I know it's not easy to appreciate our challenges, the struggles, the fights, and the hard times. However, I also know that it doesn't matter whether it's 'easy' or 'hard'. What matters is that we are being intentional. What matters is that we are focused upon how we want to show up! What matters is that we are focusing upon the power of creative thought to intentionally manifest a better life for ourselves, our family, our community and our planet.

And, we cannot transform our world by hanging onto the 'negative' stories from our past. Nor can we transform any situation that we are unwilling to give thanks for. One way to simply focus and employ the power of gratitude is to simply write down your 'I am Grateful for.' list every day.

On my Creative Manifesting Forum friends simply share their Gratitude Lists as a way to speak loudly and clearly to the Universe - WE ARE GRATEFUL. One guest wrote:

- Feeling better about my social life coming together;

- Feeling better after detaching and setting free my feelings;

- Believing and trusting more of my gut feelings again;

- Being open to other responsibilities with love;

- Feeling stronger as the day went by;

- The fab sunshine;

- Still feeling super sexy;

- Feeling good about my body and health;

- Wanting the best outcome for my love new interest without manipulation or desperation;

- Having a massive grin on my face all day from last night;

- Still feeling proud of myself from last night's tester;

- Able to have the free space and time I have now;

- The lovely choc's I've been eating through out the day!

There's nothing earth shattering about this list. However, the vibrational alignment of this list is equal to all the prosperity, love, fulfillment and success that we truly want. Our work as law of attraction students is to seek vibrational alignment. When we are vibrationally aligned, we attract more to be grateful for!

I'll share my most recent 'Gratitude' miracle. In May of this year, we lost our sweet family pet, a Sheltie named Gracie, to cancer. She graced our family for 11 years and 6 months and was affectionately called, "Crazy Gracie." She earned this nickname because she would go crazy over the weirdest noises - like the oven, for example. She would bark and spin frantically when we opened the oven door; weird but lovable!

By October, my kids were begging for a puppy. And, I was ready too. So, I thought, "There are so many dogs that need a good home. We'll adopt a shelter dog!" I contacted the Shetland Sheepdog (Sheltie) rescue and was so excited to find out they had many, many wonderful Shelties that needed a good home.

Would you believe - I was rejected! They dismissed me and wouldn't let me adopt one of their dozen or so 'Shelties in need of a good home'! Long story short, they couldn't verify that we were responsible pet owners (my vet never called them back and they couldn't reach the mobile vet clinic we sometimes used)!

I was mortified. I know that's a strong word, but that's how I felt. I literally woke up every night for a week wondering why they wouldn't let me adopt a dog!?!? I even thought to myself, "Wow! If I can't adopt a dog, what would someone say about me as a mother?!?!"

So, after a few weeks of strange humiliation, I decided to try again. And, wouldn't you know it? I was rejected again! This time they rejected me by simply not responding to my application and calls. Now, of course, I knew where my 'energy' was before I even started with the Golden Retriever rescue. I wasn't surprised when they just didn't reply. I had known that my 'vibration' was not aligned but I was trying to 'force' the situation anyway. I had been sharing my story about "those Nazi shelter folks!" with all my friends. And, yes, I'm not proud of myself but I did use those words and we all got a good laugh at my expense!

However, this left me in a place of knowing that it wasn't the shelter's fault but my very own 'consciousness' that wouldn't allow me to adopt. I had to clean up my vibration or my children would never get a dog!

This is when I realized that I had been telling the Universe what kind of personality that I wanted in our family pet but I hadn't trusted in the Divine to deliver in perfect timing. I shifted my attention from one of negativity to one of sheer gratitude. "I am so grateful that we haven't adopted yet. I know that our perfect family pet, aligned with all of our family goals, is already mine and I'm just waiting patiently for the call."

I reached out to three more shelters and friends who had 'dogs' in need, but they didn't respond. This time, I immediately went to gratitude: "Oh well. those weren't the ones. Thank you, Universe! Thank you, God, for protecting us and putting us in harmony with the right pet for us, now!"

Here's my gratitude miracle: Yesterday, my brother calls. "Anisa, a coworker just sent an email that she has a border collier she's fostering. He's a smart, 8 month old tri-color Border that needs a good home." I knew instantly this was the call.

And, here's the magic: When we met, I recognized the dog and his soul instantly. I had even printed his picture out from another shelter and had made a note to contact the shelter when we got back from Thanksgiving! He's wonderful! He's sleeping by my side at this very moment, happy and content. He's smart, loves kids, and hasn't even thought about chasing Caesar (our family scaredy cat)!

I asked for a call and that's exactly what I got. However, had I not shifted my attention into a place of appreciation, well - I can only assume that I'd be rejected indefinitely!

In parting, I leave with one of my favorite thought-provoking gratitude quotes:

"To educate yourself for the feeling of gratitude means to take nothing for granted, but to always seek out and value the kind that will stand behind the action. Nothing that is done for you is a matter of course. Everything originates in a will for the good, which is directed at you. Train yourself never to put off the word or action for the expression of gratitude."

- Albert Schweitzer

I am so grateful for you!

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10Apr/120

Tarot – Myths and Misconceptions

Tarot – myths and misconceptions

A Tarot deck is a pack of 78 picture cards – yes, that simple. However, the pictures on these cards are worth more than a thousand words – they paint a picture of life. A Tarot deck can also be thought of as a Book of Life but every time you read this book, the pages are rearranged and it tells a different story.

Over the years, some strange myths have grown up around Tarot and Tarot reading. However weird and outdated these ideas may seem today, there is often some truth in their origins.

• One of the first Tarot myths encountered is that it is bad luck to buy your own deck. - it should be bought for you by someone else. You could wait for ever for this to happen and then it may be one you don’t like. Choose and buy your own first deck, examine the images carefully and make sure you can relate to them i.e. don’t buy a dragon deck if you are frightened of dragons.

• You have to be psychic to be able to read the Tarot. Many who read the Tarot are psychic and this will lead to a different type of reading but not necessarily a better one. Anyone can learn to read the tarot although, as with anything, some will have more of an aptitude for it than others.

• The Tarot cards must be wrapped in black silk to protect them from “negative forces?” That is entirely up to you although personally I feel that dust and children’s fingers may be a greater danger. By all means take the necessary precautions to keep the cards clean and in good condition. They are, after all, your tools.

• Never let anyone else touch your cards. This is another personal choice. In a face to face reading situation it can be beneficial to let the querent (questioner) shuffle the cards in order to impart some of their energies into the deck.

• You should not read your own cards. Some say this is unlucky, I say it can be difficult to read ones own cards objectively. By this I mean it is easy to see what you want to see in your own cards.

• The “Death” card means that someone around you is going to die. Theoretically, this is possible as we are all going to die but it is highly unlikely that this card on its own will prophesise someone’s death.

• What the Tarot cards say is always right. Nothing is set in stone – more like written in sand. We all have our free will and the Tarot gives us guidance along with choices that we can make in our lives. It is up to us to choose our paths. If we see something in a reading that we do not like then we have the choice to do something about changing that thing.

• Tarot is evil. Also described as the “Devil’s Picture Book”. It is human nature to be afraid of something that is not fully understood or what is viewed as threatening. True, some of the images may be a bit scary in some decks but so are some great works of art – they aren’t thought of as evil.

At the end of the day, they are your cards for you to do what you wish with them. If performing a ritual before a reading makes you feel better – then do it. Just use your common sense. As long as it harms no one else – do what you wish.

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3Feb/120

Finding Your Silver Lining!

Have you ever heard the saying,"Every cloud has a silver lining?" Basically, it means you should not feel hopeless when confronted with difficult times as they always lead to brighter days ahead. Difficulties are like the dark clouds that fill the sky on a rainy day, seemingly blocking out the sun.

Just as the clouds block the sun's rays, we feel that our joys or accomplishments are blocked by these difficulties. However, if you look very close at the edges of the cloud, you can see the sun shining as if to make a silver lining around the cloud. The splendor of that view is inspiring! It reminds us that an element of hope, or a consoling aspect, can be found in what appears to be an otherwise bad situation.

Each of us can recall a time in our life where we said, "if only..." For me, I used to have a mountain of them..

...if only I had gone to college, I would be a veterinarian..if only I had cared about myself, I wouldn't have blossomed to 330 lbs....if only I didn't have these stretch marks, I'd be so happy...only I had taken the other job, I wouldn't be unemployed

The truth of the matter is this...

....if I had gone to college directly after high school, I may or may not have become a veterinarian... but I would have missed the opportunity to meet my husband

...if I hadn't bloomed to 330 lbs,I may not have learned to have empathy and compassion for others. Additionally, I might not have had the opportunity to find my inner strength and determination

...if I had not had stretch marks, I may not have been blessed with the lovely young lady who I am proud to call my daughter, and my friend

...if I'd taken another job, I may or may not have been unemployed. I would, however, have missed meeting the kind gentleman that helped me learn my value

How did I learn to change my viewpoint? How did I learn to see the silver lining in every cloud? I'll share what my grandfather lovingly shared with my mother...and she caringly taught to me...

My grandfather moved to Kansas with the entrepreneurial spirit of drilling for oil. Coming from the small town of Carlisle, and being a welder, he knew little of what he would encounter. However, with much courage and the spirit of a pioneer, he and his father moved to Kansas to live their dream. He read and studied about the use of nitroglycerine and what it meant to fracture a well. Later, during the struggling days of a new business, his son asked if he could join him and his grandfather to work in the oil business. Grandpa wanted to have Buddy join him but wasn't sure if the young business would thrive enough to sufficiently support Buddy and his young family.

Buddy remained in Des Moines and secured employment driving a delivery truck for a donut shop. In a vehicle, similar to our UPS trucks of today, the driver's door was a full panel that slid into the side panel of the truck. It was during the late 1950's and seat belts were not in use. Drivers routinely drove their routes with the doors wide open to aid them in easily jumping in and out at each destination.

Grandpa received a call no parent wants to receive and was notified that his son had been killed. Someone hit the passenger side of the delivery van and Buddy had flown out the open doorway. The truck tipped over and his life ended.

Grandpa briefly allowed the words "..if only,...if only I had allowed Buddy to come to Kansas, he would still be alive" to occupy his thoughts. A while afterwards, Grandpa heard of an automobile accident on a country road in Kansas where the driver of a truck was killed. He came to the realization that he could never win the "what if" scenarios. For "if" he had told Buddy he could join him in Kansas, he "could" have been the driver that was killed on the road that day. Grandpa calmed his thoughts, threw out the "if only" language and focused on the positives of life.. the silver linings.

Grandpa chose to be happy in the fact that his son wanted to work with him and to be thankful for the years he had shared with Buddy. In addition, the lesson of the silver lining has now been passed on through four generations (soon to be five as I will be sending this to my grandchildren).

It is time to let go of the "what if's" of our lives and focus on our blessings. In doing so, we free ourselves from the torment of "what if". By developing an "attitude of gratitude" we allow our minds to embrace positive thoughts that, like a magnet, will be drawn to you. It prepares us for a mindset that Believes in the infinite possibilities of life!

Art Linkletter said, "Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out." Brian Tracy shared, "Develop an attitude of gratitude and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation."

Can we apply this lesson to our journey to a healthier lifestyle? You bet we can!

So, in the words of Mary Oliver,"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"

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4Jan/120

Leadership Coaching Program & Style in Texas

Leadership Coaching Program

In today’s fast-paced, unpredictable business environment, result-oriented leaders play a vital role in each and every organization. Leadership coaching programs have become extensively necessary these days. It is critical to cultivate leadership quality among the next generation youngsters. However, conflicting agendas, immature professional relationships and poor communication are major hurdles in finding potential leaders. In such situations, Leadership Coaching Program is an effective way to develop leadership qualities with vision and competence.

 

What is Leadership Coaching?

Leadership Coaching offers a professionally trained coach who helps out people in recognizing key professional objectives and priorities. Coach creates strategies to overcome obstacles people face during the coaching program. It’s a one-on-one relationship with coach which reveals hidden leadership qualities in a person.

What is Leadership Coaching Style?

Leadership Coaching Style makes it easier to develop leadership skills in existing and potential leaders. With the help of right kind of leadership coaching style and guidance leaders can be groomed internally to carry any the business to meet the demands.

CoachPrakash provides comprehensive, customized coaching aimed at developing your leadership style. If you want to become a better leader, grow your business, or create a highly-charged organization with the best employees, Leadership Coaching programs and style can be of great value to you.

Also, highly effective and operative Leadership Coaching programs like Leadership Coaching for Congruence, Leadership and Communication Training and Business Leadership Coaching lend a hand in reshaping your professional life with a fresh approach.

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Everyone is a Leader - one only needs to identify and capitalize on it!

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8Dec/110

Procrastination: the Silent Killer

In my studies of human development, I found that procrastination destroys more things than any other single element. If this habit gets out of control, it ruins marriages, careers, relationships, and self worth. Over time, it has the capability to grow until it completely paralyzes an individual. The effect equally devastates the people doing the procrastinating and all others around them.

Everyone procrastinates to a certain degree. It is a natural human tendency to put some things off, especially those activities we deem negative. Where this habit becomes a problem is when it becomes the default mindset. As children, we are inclined to do things the moment that we think of them. The “do it now” mentality is prevalent. The concept of time is not well formed, thus the child lives completely in the moment. Of course, as we age, this all changes.

As we mature, we learn certain lessons. These lessons are taught in a variety of ways. However, the overall message is that responsible people do a lot of things they do not enjoy. To show us how this work, most of us are given chores to do while growing up. Tasks such as mowing the lawn, taking out the garbage, setting the table, and doing the dishes suddenly are assigned to us. Naturally, the desire to go out and play is stronger than the will to do these things. The reason is playing is fun while chores are not. It is in this way that many of us encounter our first opportunity to procrastinate,

Obviously there is a vast difference between putting off the mowing of the lawn and not paying the electric bill. Yet, when we follow the progression of this deadly habit, we clearly see how one arrives at this destination. We simply do not start out as procrastinators. However, as the unenviable tasks that require our attention mount in our lives, we begin to put more and more off. It starts with the lawn. From there we develop the practice of leaving our school assignments until the night before they are due. This action is duplicated when given a project in the workplace. Some of us even revel in the reputation that we gain as being able to complete things at the last moment. Unfortunately, many of us realize that procrastination creates a great deal of stress in our lives.

Procrastination is a habit. Like all other habits, it becomes ingrained in us over time. The more we engage in it, the deeper it spreads it roots. It is not uncommon for procrastination to completely dominate someones thought process. Instead of having a do it now mentality, the default mindset is to put the activity off. “Later” and “tomorrow” are commonly uttered responses when questioned about the task being avoided.

There are two factors that drive us to procrastinate. When simple activities are put off, laziness is the motivator. Basically, we do not want to do it. We can complete the tasks with ease yet just cannot seem to motivate ourselves to do it. Fortunately, this is usually a short lived situation. Once the motivation to act returns, the activity is quickly completed.

The other motivator is fear. Most situations where procrastination is present is based out of this emotion. When confronted with a task, we project into the future negatively. Our mind focuses upon how everything will not work out for us. This creates a degree of fear. When it is great enough, we start to put the action off. This will occur until the pain of putting it off is greater than the pain associated with taking the action.

Repeating this scenario is what causes us to be paralyzed by procrastination. At first, only the most difficult of tasks are avoided. However, as the habit develops, we default to the idea of putting things off. When this point is reached, the individual is most likely unaware of the severity of the procrastination. It is operating at a subconscious level. The result is the inability to take the action necessary to move forward. While this persists, the quality of life decreases as all areas become infected with this tendency.

Awareness is the beginning of the overcoming of this tragic habit. Monitor those areas where you have a tendency to procrastinate to bring a level of consciousness to your shortcomings, Then take action to complete the task in spite of what your mind is telling you. It is the key to success.

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23Sep/110

Achieving Success in Business Requires 5 Key Attributes

Achieving success in business is almost always the result of hard work, dedication and sacrifice. Any business community in general is bound to be very competitive and achieving success will always come at some cost. Although developing a sound business plan is a very good start in reality the key to success lies within the person.

There are 5 critical attributes a person will require if they desire to attain any type of professional success in their lives. Now relax these attributes to which we refer are not 'special' gifts bestowed upon only the 'chosen' but can in fact be easily acquired. Once more these attributes or 'success skills' can be applied to just about any aspect of your life and are not limited to business related activities.

So for those wondering how to become successful, or at least improve their work performance or personal lives here are 5 areas that will need to be worked on.

The Why

Whatever it is that you are striving to succeed at must be something you want badly enough to commit your concerted effort towards. The ambition that you bring to your pursuits is directly related to the chances of your success. Once you have established strong reasons as to why you want to succeed the ambition within you will help you maintain your drive or efforts.

Determination

Here too you will be relying upon a very strong desire to achieve success and this will translate over into a commitment or determination to succeed. If you focus on the net results and how much they will benefit you maintaining your resolve should not be an issue.

Focusing Effort

Knowing what it is you have to do to attain the desired objectives you seek is only half the battle. The willingness to put forth the necessary effort over the required amount of time needed will ultimately be what gains you the results you seek.

In a nutshell you will need a strong work ethic to see you through.

Patience

Most any accomplishment of significance will take time to achieve. Realizing and accepting this beforehand will go a long way towards your ability to meet your goals and objectives.

Don't let the enthusiasm and anticipation of meeting your objectives wear down your patience. Patience is a virtue and in this case it is also a strong ally of yours.  

Adaptability

Things do not always go according to plan and in fact this is one constant we can generally rely upon. When and if things change, stop and assess the situation then adapt and continue to move forward. If mistakes occur avoid the temptation to lose your cool but instead take the time to learn from it so that you do not make that same error again.

Achieving success in business is not necessarily an extraordinary stroke of luck but more the result of careful planning and mental preparation. Professional success does require some sacrifice but more importantly the key to success is developing and adopting the proper mental 'framework.' As we reviewed the 5 critical success skills above you can plainly see it will take your willingness to sacrifice. Knowing how to become successful will come with the realization that sacrifice and a steadfast adherence to your goals will be the very foundation of the success you seek. The 5 traits we discussed above, their development and your adoption of them, will be the key to coordinating your physical efforts with your focused mindset

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