Have you ever heard the saying,”Every cloud has a silver lining?” Basically, it means you should not feel hopeless when confronted with difficult times as they always lead to brighter days ahead. Difficulties are like the dark clouds that fill the sky on a rainy day, seemingly blocking out the sun.

Just as the clouds block the sun’s rays, we feel that our joys or accomplishments are blocked by these difficulties. However, if you look very close at the edges of the cloud, you can see the sun shining as if to make a silver lining around the cloud. The splendor of that view is inspiring! It reminds us that an element of hope, or a consoling aspect, can be found in what appears to be an otherwise bad situation.

Each of us can recall a time in our life where we said, “if only…” For me, I used to have a mountain of them..

…if only I had gone to college, I would be a veterinarian..if only I had cared about myself, I wouldn’t have blossomed to 330 lbs….if only I didn’t have these stretch marks, I’d be so happy…only I had taken the other job, I wouldn’t be unemployed

The truth of the matter is this…

….if I had gone to college directly after high school, I may or may not have become a veterinarian… but I would have missed the opportunity to meet my husband

…if I hadn’t bloomed to 330 lbs,I may not have learned to have empathy and compassion for others. Additionally, I might not have had the opportunity to find my inner strength and determination

…if I had not had stretch marks, I may not have been blessed with the lovely young lady who I am proud to call my daughter, and my friend

…if I’d taken another job, I may or may not have been unemployed. I would, however, have missed meeting the kind gentleman that helped me learn my value

How did I learn to change my viewpoint? How did I learn to see the silver lining in every cloud? I’ll share what my grandfather lovingly shared with my mother…and she caringly taught to me…

My grandfather moved to Kansas with the entrepreneurial spirit of drilling for oil. Coming from the small town of Carlisle, and being a welder, he knew little of what he would encounter. However, with much courage and the spirit of a pioneer, he and his father moved to Kansas to live their dream. He read and studied about the use of nitroglycerine and what it meant to fracture a well. Later, during the struggling days of a new business, his son asked if he could join him and his grandfather to work in the oil business. Grandpa wanted to have Buddy join him but wasn’t sure if the young business would thrive enough to sufficiently support Buddy and his young family.

Buddy remained in Des Moines and secured employment driving a delivery truck for a donut shop. In a vehicle, similar to our UPS trucks of today, the driver’s door was a full panel that slid into the side panel of the truck. It was during the late 1950′s and seat belts were not in use. Drivers routinely drove their routes with the doors wide open to aid them in easily jumping in and out at each destination.

Grandpa received a call no parent wants to receive and was notified that his son had been killed. Someone hit the passenger side of the delivery van and Buddy had flown out the open doorway. The truck tipped over and his life ended.

Grandpa briefly allowed the words “..if only,…if only I had allowed Buddy to come to Kansas, he would still be alive” to occupy his thoughts. A while afterwards, Grandpa heard of an automobile accident on a country road in Kansas where the driver of a truck was killed. He came to the realization that he could never win the “what if” scenarios. For “if” he had told Buddy he could join him in Kansas, he “could” have been the driver that was killed on the road that day. Grandpa calmed his thoughts, threw out the “if only” language and focused on the positives of life.. the silver linings.

Grandpa chose to be happy in the fact that his son wanted to work with him and to be thankful for the years he had shared with Buddy. In addition, the lesson of the silver lining has now been passed on through four generations (soon to be five as I will be sending this to my grandchildren).

It is time to let go of the “what if’s” of our lives and focus on our blessings. In doing so, we free ourselves from the torment of “what if”. By developing an “attitude of gratitude” we allow our minds to embrace positive thoughts that, like a magnet, will be drawn to you. It prepares us for a mindset that Believes in the infinite possibilities of life!

Art Linkletter said, “Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out.” Brian Tracy shared, “Develop an attitude of gratitude and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”

Can we apply this lesson to our journey to a healthier lifestyle? You bet we can!

So, in the words of Mary Oliver,”Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”


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Leadership Coaching Program

In today’s fast-paced, unpredictable business environment, result-oriented leaders play a vital role in each and every organization. Leadership coaching programs have become extensively necessary these days. It is critical to cultivate leadership quality among the next generation youngsters. However, conflicting agendas, immature professional relationships and poor communication are major hurdles in finding potential leaders. In such situations, Leadership Coaching Program is an effective way to develop leadership qualities with vision and competence.

 

What is Leadership Coaching?

Leadership Coaching offers a professionally trained coach who helps out people in recognizing key professional objectives and priorities. Coach creates strategies to overcome obstacles people face during the coaching program. It’s a one-on-one relationship with coach which reveals hidden leadership qualities in a person.

What is Leadership Coaching Style?

Leadership Coaching Style makes it easier to develop leadership skills in existing and potential leaders. With the help of right kind of leadership coaching style and guidance leaders can be groomed internally to carry any the business to meet the demands.

CoachPrakash provides comprehensive, customized coaching aimed at developing your leadership style. If you want to become a better leader, grow your business, or create a highly-charged organization with the best employees, Leadership Coaching programs and style can be of great value to you.

Also, highly effective and operative Leadership Coaching programs like Leadership Coaching for Congruence, Leadership and Communication Training and Business Leadership Coaching lend a hand in reshaping your professional life with a fresh approach.

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Dr. Prakash provides the coaching which enhances your leadership qualities, streamline your priorities and put you on a path to professional success. Dr. Prakash understands the management needs of today and the future and offers extensive, on-target personal and organizational Leadership Coaching programs.

Everyone is a Leader – one only needs to identify and capitalize on it!


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In my studies of human development, I found that procrastination destroys more things than any other single element. If this habit gets out of control, it ruins marriages, careers, relationships, and self worth. Over time, it has the capability to grow until it completely paralyzes an individual. The effect equally devastates the people doing the procrastinating and all others around them.

Everyone procrastinates to a certain degree. It is a natural human tendency to put some things off, especially those activities we deem negative. Where this habit becomes a problem is when it becomes the default mindset. As children, we are inclined to do things the moment that we think of them. The “do it now” mentality is prevalent. The concept of time is not well formed, thus the child lives completely in the moment. Of course, as we age, this all changes.

As we mature, we learn certain lessons. These lessons are taught in a variety of ways. However, the overall message is that responsible people do a lot of things they do not enjoy. To show us how this work, most of us are given chores to do while growing up. Tasks such as mowing the lawn, taking out the garbage, setting the table, and doing the dishes suddenly are assigned to us. Naturally, the desire to go out and play is stronger than the will to do these things. The reason is playing is fun while chores are not. It is in this way that many of us encounter our first opportunity to procrastinate,

Obviously there is a vast difference between putting off the mowing of the lawn and not paying the electric bill. Yet, when we follow the progression of this deadly habit, we clearly see how one arrives at this destination. We simply do not start out as procrastinators. However, as the unenviable tasks that require our attention mount in our lives, we begin to put more and more off. It starts with the lawn. From there we develop the practice of leaving our school assignments until the night before they are due. This action is duplicated when given a project in the workplace. Some of us even revel in the reputation that we gain as being able to complete things at the last moment. Unfortunately, many of us realize that procrastination creates a great deal of stress in our lives.

Procrastination is a habit. Like all other habits, it becomes ingrained in us over time. The more we engage in it, the deeper it spreads it roots. It is not uncommon for procrastination to completely dominate someones thought process. Instead of having a do it now mentality, the default mindset is to put the activity off. “Later” and “tomorrow” are commonly uttered responses when questioned about the task being avoided.

There are two factors that drive us to procrastinate. When simple activities are put off, laziness is the motivator. Basically, we do not want to do it. We can complete the tasks with ease yet just cannot seem to motivate ourselves to do it. Fortunately, this is usually a short lived situation. Once the motivation to act returns, the activity is quickly completed.

The other motivator is fear. Most situations where procrastination is present is based out of this emotion. When confronted with a task, we project into the future negatively. Our mind focuses upon how everything will not work out for us. This creates a degree of fear. When it is great enough, we start to put the action off. This will occur until the pain of putting it off is greater than the pain associated with taking the action.

Repeating this scenario is what causes us to be paralyzed by procrastination. At first, only the most difficult of tasks are avoided. However, as the habit develops, we default to the idea of putting things off. When this point is reached, the individual is most likely unaware of the severity of the procrastination. It is operating at a subconscious level. The result is the inability to take the action necessary to move forward. While this persists, the quality of life decreases as all areas become infected with this tendency.

Awareness is the beginning of the overcoming of this tragic habit. Monitor those areas where you have a tendency to procrastinate to bring a level of consciousness to your shortcomings, Then take action to complete the task in spite of what your mind is telling you. It is the key to success.


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As a Baby Boomer member of the Sandwich Generation, perhaps you have already had talks with your aging parents about their wills, beneficiaries, and advanced medical directives for hospital care. But have you discussed an ethical will or the legacy of meaning they wish to leave behind? As parents grow older, it becomes more important to them to be remembered for the life lessons they taught than for the material gifts they leave behind.

Rachel remembers her first experience with just such a legacy. “My mother-in-law was a wise woman. Although she wasn’t able to continue her education beyond high school, her understanding of people rivaled that of any psychologist. She raised my husband, a sickly boy, to be self-confident and to strive for the best. She gave all of her grandchildren unconditional love and support. And she never questioned my place in our family. But I think her wisdom was most valuable to all of the family after she learned that her cancer had metastasized. Before she died, she had long private talks with each one of us, never shying away from the truth, even with her grandchildren. She wanted to leave a lasting personal legacy with every member of her family and a final expression of her love for each of us. I am still strengthened by the memory of my final talk with her, even today.”

What can you do to help create a legacy of meaning within your own family? To get started, here are some suggestions.

1. Spend quality time talking with your parents about the values that are important to them. Ask them specific questions about what ethics have guided them through the years. You probably know some of these answers from having observed them and their role modeling, but the conversations can be further enlightening. As Mimi cared for her mom when she was at the end stages of heart failure, they had long conversations deep into the night. Mimi grew to appreciate her mother as never before. “I used to criticize her for being so frugal. I now realize she was afraid she wouldn’t have enough money to survive. I decided to use the small inheritance she managed to save for me in a way she would appreciate. I’ve opened college bank accounts for the children of my brother, who is struggling financially. I am proud that I can honor my mom in this way.”

2. Talk with your parents about their past and the stories of their lives. Their tales will become a part of how you remember them. Through you, the history of your parents will be preserved from generation to generation. Look through their old photographs and listen to the memories they evoke. Video tape these conversations to have a lasting visual and oral record of them. View these family photos and videos as a slice of life – a gift for the future to be enjoyed by your children and grandchildren. Sarah loved seeing the pictures of her mother as a teenager, having fun with her friends at the beach. “Mom always worked so hard – she had two jobs when we were little – and I think it aged her tremendously. My children see her only as very old and infirm. When I show them pictures of her as a girl, full of energy and enthusiasm, she seems more real to them.”

3. Identify what you consider to be your parents’ personal strengths and talk with them about the strengths they remember in their own parents. Create a family strengths tree, focusing both on strengths that have been passed down and on those that are unique to each family member. You will have a concrete visual profile of your ancestors’ virtues to guide you and your children. Toby recalled the impact that her father’s character had on her. “He taught me so much about how to be a good human being just by the way he treated everyone around him. I try to live up to his standard of morality every day in the way I live my life.”

4. Consult with books or Internet websites to help your parents create an ethical will. Your family will be enriched by their legacy – knowing what they believed in, their values and rituals, and how they lived their lives. Remaining emotionally open during this interactive process can help you better understand your parents as well as yourself and your own personal goals. Shortly before he died, Lynn and her father wrote down some of his thoughts and answers to the questions they had discussed. Now when she feels troubled, she spends time rereading her journal. “Dad lived to age 92. He is always in my mind and I have the words we wrote together to ground me. He was the only one who could make me feel stronger, and I always think about the way he would want me to handle myself in difficult situations.”

Going through the process with your aging parents may even give you a head start on thinking about your own ethical will. What values do you want to pass on to your children? How can you role model these for them today? How can you live your life now as if these values really are important to you? How you answer these kinds of questions to yourself can help you create your own legacy of meaning for your children and grandchildren over the next decades.

(c) 2007, Her Mentor Center


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The journey of self discovery begins with the immediacy of your freedom from what you are not and with the being of who you already are.



It does not begin from within the illusion of your imagination, from the place of you believing yourself to be who you think you are. It does not begin from the place of seeking or thinking, or what you customarily know as “spirituality.” Your persistence in who you think you are has you not realising who you are.



This journey of self discovery begins with you consciously aligning your attention to that, to who you already are – essence – which is already flowing through your mindbody, flowing through your very eyes right now.

Self is not something that you can look at. You cannot perceive it like all other perceivables. You cannot look directly down its throat. This self is not something that stands apart from who you are. It is who you are.

You can only be the self that you are.

And when you do begin this journey of discovering your self, discovering just what your heart is, you begin acquiring the taste of – and for – home.

Self discovery is an “endless” journey of revelation of how rich the heart – who you are – is.

The alignment of your conscious attention to this “motion of seeing” that is flowing through your eyes right now and your coming to rest as this “aliveness” is your immediate freedom from what you are not and of your being this one that has always been true of you.

No amount of thinking, concepts, attempting to do it from the disposition of who you think you are, is going to be of any help to you. There is no getting around the fact that you have to surrender and let go of who you think you are.

The “central point” of self, as it is flowing through this mindbody that you drive around through, must be aligned to and come to rest as by you – and you can because it is who you are.

It is so damn simple that you “western male mind”ers will simply not grok this nor do it – even though it is not a “doing.” You will not let go of who you think you are to be what has always been true of you. But even you will finally come home to the heart of your self, eventually. No one can not come home to who they already are – it is the destiny of all to be who you are. How long you may take is an entirely different story though.

Through being at rest as this one that is flowing through your very eyes right here right now, where you are immediately no longer entrapped and bound by who you think you are – this mindbody that you find yourself travelling around through, you find yourself with no where to go and no thing to do. Who you are is already here and all things are arising in this one that is who you are. There is nothing that is not already who you are. Whatever you attempt to “go for” is already in who you are.

You become established as this one that is already who you are.

Through being at rest as this one – self, the heart – and “going” no where to gain what is already arising in who you are, you begin to realize the enormity of this one that is who you are, energetically, intrinsically.

Who you are already is.

You can be who you are because you already are who you are – however, it is not who you think you are and this must be surrendered for you to come to rest as the one that is already true of you.

The surrendering is in you focusing your attention to something other than your accustomed place of residence. Coming to rest as the very “thing” that is who you are.

Being at rest as this one that is who you are, not doing anything else, simply free as the heart. Through abiding here, the mindbody that you are travelling around through begins to unravel its “bondage” of you. You find more free attention and energy to simply be this one that is who you are. As this occurs – not through you trying to do anything or manipulate anything – you realize more of what it is that is who you are.

This journey of self discovery is the most wondrous of journeys. Why? Because it is one in which you are being who you already are – at home in the heart – not you being who you think you are – lost in the illusion of who you are not.


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So, what is your agenda? Do you have one? Do you have an agenda for your life? Do you have a plan? What you intend to do and how are you going to do it? How are you going to go about it? Any goals? Any dreams?

Are we talking big? Are we talking small? What are we talking here? Well, anything you like. Anything that grabs your fancy. But if you get the small things right the big things will fall into place, won’t they? (Another article would be getting the big things right, which would give you the experience and knowledge to be able to coast through future small things – but that is for another day.)

After all don’t we think about most other things before we start out? We assess where we need to go, what we need to achieve. We decide what is worth going for and what we should leave alone. We plan our endeavour. The more important the objective the more planning and consideration is given to the task. We plan when we need to buy a house, a car, a holiday. Why not plan our life?

Is this not worth the effort and the trouble? Is not our life worth assessing? Not worth considering what we need to do, where we need to go, what we want to achieve, how we want to live our life?

We all think so, don’t we? And we do it to a certain extent. But do we do it enough? Do we do it sufficiently often, efficiently and effectively enough to make a real difference to our life and the way we live? Because? Oh just because.

But we can find enough reasons. They are all around us. They hit us day and night. Try to grab our attention. Try to get us to buy in. Distract us. And so it goes on.

And what do we need to do? What have we got to do? Where should we start?

A good place would be to put the elements together. Make some decisions. Have a good look at our life. Decide what is important to us. Put some things into perspective. Create a plan for yourself. Create an agenda for yourself.

And remember that you don’t have to broadcast your decision. Share it with those close to you – but feel comfortable otherwise about keeping the details to yourself. Your life, you’re in charge. Get it on course. Then you’ll have something that you can be proud of.

What do you want to achieve – be clear about that. What do you want on your agenda? Get it in focus. Visualize what you want to do or achieve. Put in the steps and effort towards your objective. Aim to fulfil your potential. And when your prize is achieved, reassess. Redefine a new goal. Put the new elements into place. The new plan – your revised agenda. Work the plan and repeat the new plan … Try this out and see the results!

So, what is your agenda for life? Do you have one? If you don’t, take this opportunity as a timely reminder? You choose. You decide. You go for it. And let your effort, your agenda take you off into a bright future.

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Earlier this week I received this message in my in-box; Your Effort Is A Portrait of Yourself. It got me thinking about a lot of things. I remember reading that Colonel Sanders knocked upon one thousand doors before the recipe behind KFC was recognized as having potential. I also recall a Tony Robbins equation – Massive Action = Massive results.

There are innumerable people on Twitter who tweet similarly intended motivational messages daily (or even every 10 minutes of the day!) If you subscribe, you can be literally bombarded with motivational messages which tell you that you can do it, whatever “it” means to you. And they are all true. You can do it, so long as you really, really want to and have the enthusiasm to keep on going, like Colonel Sanders.

The majority of people who purchase self help products or “get rich quick” schemes do not even use them. In fact I heard a statistic the other day which took my breath way; 89% do not use them. Wow!

The fact is that only 3 percent of people reach the elite status of becoming an “over-achiever” to the degree of founding KFC, Yahoo, McDonalds or Ford. These people have certain things in common; a talent to identify a niche, the foresight to identify how to create leverage so as to create that niche and achieve success, a little luck in being in the right place at the right time, and a pig headedness which prevents them from giving up!

Far more than 3% of us dream of achieving that success. The other 94% of the 97% who purchase these products which promote systems of success strategy dream in this way. Once the product has been purchased, a decision is made between input and potential output and the desire to succeed is prone to wither and die – rapidly. This brings me back to the fact that your effort is a portrait of yourself.

If you have bought one of those products and not used it, please don’t feel bad. If you were meant to have used it you would have. Sometimes you are in too comfortable a place to really want to go that extra mile; sometimes you just feel happier in your familiar surroundings. I know this to be true; I often weigh up the pros and cons of running out of the door and playing a game of golf against the need to write another article so as to promote my business; the weather can often dictate the result!

For me the desire to achieve success as an internet marketer has become a matter of principle. I know that anyone who starts out in an attempt to attract business on the World Wide Web suddenly becomes a very, very, tiny sprat in a huge, enormous, humungous, ocean, where the rules are an unknown factor. That’s not an easy place in which to start. But with a belief in your product and sufficient desire to work at it (and not spend your days playing golf!) the WWW also provides infinite opportunities.

In this case your effort truly is a portrait of yourself. It tells a tale about how comfortable you are where you are and how much you are willing to put in to the tantalizing visions of success. Your effort will reflect your belief in yourself, your belief in your products, your belief in other peoples need for your products, and also in your own desire/need to succeed.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis mp3 downloads to promote happiness, good health, well-being and success.

 


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DON’T AVOID THE LIFE HAZADS

Difficulties give you strength. Behind every dark night there is a bright moon. Problems and hard days are the ways to take you to the brighter one. Success story reveals like that only. A work which is started with difficulty and problematic situation will be succeeded definitely. During this period of panic situation the at most need to anyone is patience. Plan a device which can you save you from the problem and you can win over that. And planning is only possible in the silent and peaceful mind. Certain worries may take you to hale. Hazards come first then success. Lightening comes first then thunder. Black cloud comes first, then only cold rain. Life is like that only. The conscious person wins over this life if he knows the mystery and stupid one is often defeated. Watch the life and see the same principles revolve around you. No need of sorrow or worries.

                            Take the life as challenge. Take the decision and do the thing which is indispensable to you. Don’t feel absurd. Nothing new principles i.e., hazard before a success is being propagated here. That is the true of life. Always weigh what is important. Then take risk of yourself. To progress is to risk. To risk is to challenge. And to challenge is to life. The life without challenge has no life. Every story starts with mystery and ends   with a solution.

                          Just think about the rain. Before the rain when the black clouds surrounds the sky, everybody start fearing, turns towards their home, close up their doors and windows but when this black clouds turn into cool air and rain, everybody became happy. Their hearts start dancing. That’s the mystery of life. Who does understand he wins others fail.

                                         Build your home by the bricks thrown by anybody to you.Fightings makes nothings.Work silently and gets your success. Where there is way there is surely a way.

 Harekrushna Behera

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